Helping your elderly loved one move, whether that’s into your home or into a smaller space that she can maintain more easily, can be overwhelming. Often your loved one has lived in a specific area for a number of years, making moving even more difficult.
Take Stock of Where Your Loved One Is Going.
The first step is to get a really good idea of where your loved one is going to be moving to. If that’s in your home, you’ll need to focus on how much space is available and what your loved one might be able to take with her. Comparing the square footage is a good start, but also make note of whether your loved one will have her own bathroom as well as her own den or other spaces.
Go Through Your Loved One’s Current Home.
Once you really understand where your loved one is going, you can look at what she has right now. Some of the items in her home are going to be items your loved one wants with her, no matter what. After that, you can start to fill in the items that are on your loved one’s “want to take” list. Some items just won’t be able to make it, however.
Determine What Can Be Donated or Given Away.
Some items may need to go to other family members if there’s no room for them where your loved one is moving. Others might be better for donation or giving to other people who could use them. If your loved one is anxious about giving away or donating items that she can’t take with her, you might want to get help from a professional organizer or even a counselor who is experienced in working with these types of situations.
Set up Items in a Familiar Way in the New Home.
When you do start moving items to your loved one’s new home, try to set them up in a familiar way. If your loved one is open to having a new arrangement, that might be a good option for her in order to cement the idea that she’s in a new place. The key is to make sure that your loved one’s new space is welcoming and useful for her.
If your loved one needs more help than you can give to her while you’re helping her move, consider hiring elder care providers. That will allow you to focus on what you really need to be managing right then.