For Frank, asking for help wasn’t something that he was good at. It wasn’t something that he enjoyed doing. Even if someone offered help, he wasn’t the type of person who would accept. He had been used to doing things for himself most of his life and just having people offer him assistance made him uncomfortable. When he was 76 and it became clear to his two sons that he needed some type of senior care, they didn’t know how to convince him, or even talk to him.
The first time that one of his sons mentioned that he consider senior health care services, he was angry and wouldn’t talk to him for more than two months. He said, “I don’t need some guy watching me on the toilet.”
“Dad!” his son said. “That’s not what I’m saying.”
And that was the end of the conversation. Frank stormed out of the room and slammed his bedroom door shut, which was a clear sign that it was time to head home.
When you are trying to talk to someone you care about regarding senior care, and they don’t want to talk about it, you will likely become frustrated. It’s not easy trying to open up the lines of communication when the other individual keeps them closed.
However, without open communication, it’s going to be next to impossible to convince them to talk to senior health care services and see what they could offer them. Most of the time, those who may need this level of care don’t even want to consider it because they either believe it’s too expensive or they have misconceptions about what they offer.
Communication is a two-way street, but it needs to begin somewhere. Shutting down when your loved one doesn’t want to listen will not change anything. You may hope that over time, the more that they struggle with certain things, the more they are going to realize they need help, but odds are they may not accept that until it’s too late and a serious accident occurs.
Learn everything that you can about senior care. Find out what services they offer, how long or how short of a time they are willing to work with a patient, and how many days they could be used.
Find out what services they offer, whether they bring the patient to activities, shopping, or just to get out for an afternoon. The more that you know, the more you can drop these facts on the elderly individual. Even if he storms out of the room, each tidbit, or fact, will be planted and they will think about it while they are brooding on their own.
In time, they will be more likely to come around and begin that all important communication process. That will lead them closer to the appropriate senior care for them.
If you have a loved one who could benefit from the help of senior care in Berkeley, CA, contact the caregivers at A Better Living Home Care Agency. We help seniors and their families with many levels of senior care. Call 925-566-2366 for more information.