Relationships are definitely complicated and that can be especially true when you are now taking care of an elderly family member with whom you have a sketchy relationship.
Resolve to Start Fresh.
If your elderly family member is able and willing to talk with you about the topic, you may be able to come to an agreement to start fresh with each other. This isn’t the simplest solution, of course, especially depending on what happened in the past. But this can help you to shift your perspective enough to be an effective caregiver.
Focus on What’s Happening Right Now.
Focusing on what is going on with your senior and her health right now may be just what you need to do in order to be successful with your caregiving journey. This requires that you set aside any lingering feelings about what might have gone on in the past. When you find yourself thinking about those past events, ground yourself in the present.
Keep Your Own Attitude Positive.
The more positive that you are able to stay, the easier this is going to be for you. Look at what you need in order to keep your mental and emotional outlook positive and do everything that you can to foster that attitude. That might mean delegating more of your responsibilities as a caregiver.
Get Extra Help.
When things are still strained between you and your senior family member, distance may actually help you. Find other people who can take care of the hands-on details while you manage your elderly family member’s care from a bit farther away. Home care providers can help immensely with this and you know your aging family member is in good hands.
Talk to a Counselor.
Your own mental and emotional well-being is just as important as your senior’s, so it’s a good idea to find a counselor with whom you can work. You may find that even though there’s nothing that you can do to make the situation better, you can at least validate your own feelings and move on from there. Caregiving can help you to get the closure you’ve wanted, but maybe not in the way that you wanted or that you expected.
It’s definitely not the easiest thing in the world to completely revamp the relationship that you once had with your elderly family member. But doing what you can to move forward in as positive a manner as possible is vital if you’re going to continue being her caregiver.